As I opened Facebook, I was greeted with this photo. Part of me agrees with it. Part of me doesn’t.
As a special needs parent, we don’t have the option of not caring what other people do. We are constantly being tugged on, pulled at, asked of, and pressured in all different directions from many different, little people (or in some cases, even grown ups).
It matters greatly what we do and what other people do because it affects us. We weren’t called to live a life of isolation, but rather to help others through their weakness as they help us through ours. However, we must be focused on OUR part rather than other people’s parts. We can only be responsible for our actions and only help push other people to choose the correct actions, as well.
We can’t wait for others to make our lives better. We must choose to have a better life, no matter what circumstances surround us. We must choose to see God working and moving through the tough times. There is always someone else who has life rougher than us. For instance, this family that lost both of their twins that I feel for everytime I read her blog. Or perhaps other friends on Facebook with children who can’t communicate at all. Or even those who have fought the battle of special needs only to be lost in death. My heart aches for them. It makes me look around and realize that we can make the best of our situations and trust that God is working HIS best through them, as well.
We can choose to focus on what everyone else is NOT doing. We can look at all the negative aspects of having kids with health problems or choose to be thankful for the push to eat as healthy of foods as possible, exercise, find greener cleaning and household products (contact me about this if you want to know more!), and even the miraculous affects essential oils have on the human body. Without our troubles, I wouldn’t have found all the awesome therapies that have helped so well and can help other little bodies fighting to be vibrant and full of life. Without these trials, I wouldn’t be able to speak into others’ lives, share our story, and help direct other parents to helpful healthy options for their families.
In everything, any area of life, we can choose to focus on the bad, the ugly, and the negative. We can decide to let it rob our joy and smiles. Or we can opt for a better way. We can make an even better choice for the high road ~ the one that leads to us taking responsibility for our actions, putting action to our beliefs of a better life, finding contentment in our current situation, picking joy, and discovering happiness!
Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that ALL things work together for good to those that love God and are called according to His purpose.”
If we let Him, God will work our trials into something beautiful, something uniquely designed by Him to lead us to greatness.
Which will you choose?
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Jessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!