Of course, it’s also one of those “new car” syndromes – I didn’t notice people were playing until after I started playing – like when you get a new Honda and all of a sudden, that’s the only car you see on the road. You never noticed them before!
Anyway, if you’ve ever played Candy Crush, you know that there are just some stinkin’ tough levels to beat… like when you have 7 moves to get 6 cherries down to the bottom. I mean, come on!!
When you get to the end of those levels, you get a message that pops up that says (unless of course you beat it the first time!) “Level failed! You did not reach the goal.” (For a split second there, I thought I was actually going to win while doing my research for this portion of the article!!)
Wow – what a great thing you hear – “YOU FAILED!!!” all thrown in your face. “You didn’t make it!” “You didn’t reach the goal!” “You’re not cut out for this!” “You’re a failure! A reject! You might as well give up now!”
I don’t know about you, but the first time I read that, I thought, “Wow! That was harsh… and hurts just a little bit.” What about you? Come on… I know you felt like a failure, too, when you read it the first time.
How dare a game make us feel like failures? After all, don’t we have enough of that with other parts of our lives?
One thing I learned about myself while playing this game is that after seeing that response the second and third time, I felt something rise up in me to fight it. To take on the challenge. To somehow PROVE to this game that I was, in fact, good enough. I am smart enough. I CAN win this thing. And I’m going to show you! (of course, said as snobbily as possible)
The truth is, though, it’s a perfect metaphor for life. How many times do we have not just the opportunity to fail, but for it to be rubbed in our faces, by others around us, through public embarrassment, etc.? How many times are we given the chance to agree with the statement and totally lose heart, lose interest, and just quit?
But is that what you are called to? Is that what your life is supposed to look like? Mine isn’t, and I know that. That’s what I felt rise up in me to say, “Hey, I’m better than this and I CAN do this!”
We need to look at failures as a blessing to 1) start over and be better than the last time and 2) strengthen our skills and learn for ways to change our previous behavior and actions so we get a different outcome the next time.
I love John Maxwell’s book, Failing Forward. The title alone says enough.
Far too often we allow thoughts to creep in or opinions of others knock us down and even drag us out of the fight. But what if you are supposed to win? Are you just going to let your slip up pull you completely out of fighting for your “win?”
I hope not.
You have far too much going for you.
There are things to do that only you can do.
Learn from your mistakes. Grow from your failures. Change what needs to be changed. And if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!
… then come back and tell me how it went – I’d love to hear your story and encouragement for everyone reading this!
Jessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!