Love Where You Are Living

I love my life.

Is it perfect? By no means. Is it tough? You have NO idea. Is it fun? Often. Is it filled with grace, mercy, love, and joy? Absolutely.

Life has given me so many twists and turns lately, it’s hard to count just how many.

Through the deepest of trenches I’ve ever walked, I’ve been molded and shaped by a Creator who loves me and wants me to step into my designed purpose.

Every one of us deals with crap in our lives. Let’s be real. We ALL do. There is stuff that happens that no one would want to deal with.

It can be anything from a losing a loved one, being forced to be a caregiver, working a job you don’t like just because you need the money, losing a job, getting an awful diagnosis, etc. However, I wholeheartedly believe that what we get out of life and how we make it to the other side of these not-so-nice circumstances is how we think about them.

What goes on in our heads determines our attitudes and actions.

What do you think when something goes wrong or not as planned?

How do you initially view a challenge, problem, or issue you must deal with?

Did you know you can choose to make the best of challenges in life by looking for the blessings contained within them? (click to tweet)

Need a real-life example? Here’s one I live out almost every day of my life…

Faith Love Where You Are LivingMy daughter has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular health condition. We have run about every test that 5 neurologists could think of. We have even done nerve conduction studies, an EMG, MRI, spinal tap, biopsy, etc. – all that over the past 6 years and the only thing we know is that she is biopsy-positive for Celiac (gluten intolerant) and shows polyperipheral neuropathy with no known cause.

Poly = many, peripheral = arms & legs, neuropathy = disease of the nerves

So, that in and of itself could be viewed 2 different ways – the first, initial way most people would probably view this situation is “Crap! We still know nothing!” The second way you could view this is more like “at least we know which things it’s not and can mark those off the list with every test we do.”

See the difference?

Let me take it a step further.

I could view her inability to make her legs work like her brain wants them to as a frustration. I could look at the fact that she’s got the only physical problems out of all the kids attending her school as a obvious sign that something is not normal. I could focus on her frustrating days and her own lack of understanding exactly what’s going on and why she’s different from all of her friends and school mates.

Or I can look at how blessed she is to not be in pain which is usually associated with neuropathy. I can view how awesome it is that everyone knows who she is at school because of her use of a power chair and walker and absolutely loves her. I can witness firsthand how her wonderful attitude and joy speaks volumes to people about working through their own struggles with grace and joy because they see how gracefully she deals with her physical issues as though they aren’t a problem most of the time.

There are so many uncertainties in life. It doesn’t mean there can’t be goodness found in everything that comes across our path.

Start looking for the good in life. Start looking for the blessings in what you would typically consider a bad situation. Start choosing to see the silver lining of the rain cloud. There is beauty, grace, joy, and contentment to be found there.

The more you practice noticing silver linings, the more you will see. Do you have any good silver lining stories to share?

One thing is certain in this life… we are all blessed beyond measure!

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JessBio200 Love Where You Are LivingJessica Stone is a serial entrepreneur and mom of 4 – 3 with special needs and a set of twins. Her daughter has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her family with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Love Where You Are Living

If You Survive Parenthood, You Can Survive Anything

It’s late at night and I just finished reading a hilarious blog post from a website I recently came across. Well, at least I thought it was hilarious – but after all, it is 12:34am!

(What am I doing up this late?!?! Reading hilarious posts, I guess.)

I love the way she writes and how open she is. It makes her relatible because I can see part of my life in hers and, frankly, she cracks me up.

Her article was one of her “Confessions” – a fitting and inspirational title for my new blogging category. It’s going to absorb my “Day in the Life of a Mom” category, “Multiples” category, as well as many others.

It’s fun to read what others are doing, what fun they are having, and even the tough stuff that makes them want to wring someone’s neck, pitch a computer out a window, or run and hide from the pressures of the day – things we can all relate to.

AndrewLipnickiComparison If You Survive Parenthood, You Can Survive AnythingI thought all parents out there could understand and connect with the week I had last week. Boy, did I have one little testy dude on my hands (occasionally, it was 2 testy dudes) – this one in particular stood out.

(Did I also tell you he’s a Jonathan Lipnicki look-alike? “The human head weighs 8 pounds!”)

Perhaps it was his non-chalant “no!” when I asked him to do things or his brief thinking about it first. Or maybe it was the grin on his face as he casually did exactly what I told him not to, while looking directly at me.

It’s not like his twin, who you can tell he knows better just by looking at him – he looks to see if he’s busted. No, it’s quite different.

This little man is so wrapped up in his world that he doesn’t care if yours intersects with his or not and certainly doesn’t care if you ask him to do things… or not. He’s just going to do in his world what he wants to… or so HE thinks.

I’m getting to know his personality and what makes him tick. He’s so aloof and distant sometimes, but always cracks me up – even when he’s grinning at me doing the exact opposite of what I’ve asked.

Come on, I know you have been there with your kids – hiding back the laughter or grin when you see them disobeying with pure cuteness. Ugh – it’s tough being a parent sometimes. Ok… more than just sometimes!

I recently posted on my Facebook this very fitting statement: “Parenthood: if I can survive this, I can survive anything!” So, so true!

I wonder if we ever make God laugh when we disobey Him knowingly?? Hmmm… However, He always seems to correct us, just like we do our little ones.

Can you relate? Comment below with your fun stories of behavior struggles and fighting back the laughter.

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JessBio200 If You Survive Parenthood, You Can Survive AnythingJessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

If You Survive Parenthood, You Can Survive Anything

Life as a Single Mom… with Multiples & Special Needs

Jumping into a life that is laid out so differently than one you lived just months before can be a bit intimidating, yet exciting. Life as a single parent sure does throw a curveball with every passing day, it seems. Especially when your life is full of multiples and special needs!

I have embarked on this new journey in life that is very interesting, entertaining, chaotic, and fun, though, too.

singleparenting 223x300 Life as a Single Mom... with Multiples & Special NeedsThere is certainly an aloneness that comes from being left after 12 years of marriage. What’s interesting to me is that out of all of the possible areas I could feel alone as a parent – be it dressing the kids, playing with them, feeding them, bathing them, getting homework done, making sure they have their needs met – the place I feel it the most is knowing that I’m the sole responsible party.

I can’t just say “I’d like to go out with some girlfriends this Friday night if you are willing to watch the kids” anymore!

They are my responsibility 24/7. All 11 years, 7 years, and two bundles of energy at 3 years old! It’s up to me to make sure their physical needs are taken care of, but also their mental, emotional, and spiritual ones, too.

The twins, of course, have also chosen this time during the past few months to start letting their inner toddler ‘tude come seeping to the surface and explode in my face every once in a while. I’m pretty much guaranteed to get tears and screaming at some point in each day – because such is the life of a special needs 3 year old that can’t seem to get all their words out, has to defend themselves and their toys from the other 3 year old (gotta love brothers!), and generally just gets cranky because they can’t figure out if they are interested in napping or not… or fighting it all the way. Fun! Fun!

As much as I have to deal with the craziness that, some days, feels built into my household, I love the fact that I can still focus on the great relationship I have with my kids and what I alone can teach them.

They spend most of their time with me, so I’m choosing to pull them into this exciting time of the unknown and embrace it – the sky is the limit!

It’s critical to me as their mom that I’m maintaining the kids’ schedules and rules of the house, and even encouraging them to step it up a notch. I’ve even started a new chores plan and included new ways for them to earn money.

There are things in life that only parents can teach or else your child will learn by default from someone else (or may not even learn at all). I’m not letting that happen to my kids.

I’ve determined these are the areas I’m going to focus on with raising my kids during the rest of 2013:

~ how to give, save, and spend wisely with money

~ which foods are important to eat and how to eat a healthy lifestyle

~ how to cook

~ how to clean and keep an organized house

~ how to maintain a good attitude while doing something you don’t want to do

~ how to be disciplined to work, even when you don’t feel like it

~ how to treat each other kindly and with respect

~ how to trust God in everything, no matter what the circumstance looks like

~ and to always, ALWAYS be thankful for everything in your life

I learned some of these things, thankfully, from my own parents growing up, but others I’ve had to learn the hard way. Now is the time to instill these into my kids so they don’t have to go through as much as I have and will have a solid foundation for finances, relationships, keeping a home, and even making smart food decisions.

I heard on the radio this morning about a dad who removed all possible items from his son’s room for 3 days because the son was so ungrateful. Now, his son thanks him for everything!

We live in such a “ME” age where people think they are owed things from their family, neighbors, friends, even the government. They aren’t thankful for anything they have and expect to be given more with no effort on their part. And unfortunately, our children in this society are picking up on that attitude, too.

My children will not be ungrateful nor expect a handout. They are being trained and groomed for success so they can take their lives into their own hands and have hearts to bless others. Hopefully, I won’t have to go to those same measures as the dad did in the story above, but my kids are going to learn it one way or another… sooner rather than later.

What kinds of things have you done with your kids to teach them how to honor and respect others, be grateful for what they have, and know how to be wise with their money? Share with me in the comments section below!

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JessBio200 Life as a Single Mom... with Multiples & Special NeedsJessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Life as a Single Mom… with Multiples & Special Needs

A Message From a Mess – Life Through Divorce

I know my story can help others. Please share it and like it on Facebook, Twitter, and e-mail it out to those hurting and looking for hope… because there IS hope!

This message is too strong to keep for yourself. Someone, someone you know, is hurting because of rejection, abuse, neglect, or just through the tearing apart of something they once valued, loved, and respected. Divorce can be brutal. Feeling there is no one there, no one understands, or no one cares can be heart-wrenching. They need to know there is hope. They need encouragement. Maybe we, together, can be that encouragement to them today by you simply spreading this story. I don’t mind – that’s why I recorded it. Please, please share it!

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JessBio200 A Message From a Mess   Life Through DivorceJessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

A Message From a Mess – Life Through Divorce

10 Things Every Special Needs Kid Must Know

I recently read an article called 20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son (it’s excellent, by the way!).

It got me thinking about my sons and when I would tell them some of the things the author had listed. Then I started thinking about my daughter, her struggles, and living as a special needs kid.

What would I tell her?

What things would make the most impact to someone going through not being able to walk like the rest of us, needing to focus on her feet just to move them the right way, and dealing with the looks and comments of others that just don’t understand?

Here are the top 10 things that I want her to grow up learning, knowing, and implementing for her days to be filled with joy, contentment, and satisfaction:


1. Life is what you make it. You choose what hinders you and what doesn’t.

2. We all have struggles, issues, and trouble in this life. Just because yours may be more obvious to everyone else doesn’t mean you are any different from anyone else.

3. Be kind, even when others aren’t kind to you.

4. Always be yourself and show people your sweet heart. Getting to know the real you far outweighs the physical troubles you go through. You will be accepted for who you are, not how you look, act, or move. And if you aren’t, they aren’t a true friend anyway.

5. Let the stares, glances, and comments roll off your back. People do those things because they don’t understand. It’s their problem for not understanding, not your problem.

6. Value the uniqueness inside of you. God has given you special gifts that no one else has. Use them to bless Him & His children.

7. “Eat your veggies” is not just a phrase moms like to say. Always choose to eat them because they benefit your body, make you stronger, and help you live a longer life.

8. People are always watching you. Don’t just give them a show, teach them something special through how you live your life, your attitude, and your courage.

9. Always surround yourself with people that love you and want the best for you. Don’t take second best!

10. In all things, give God the glory. Be grateful for the blessings you have. Thank God and others often.

I will certainly be sharing some of these with my non-special needs kid, too, because I believe in every one of them and that life will be much better for them when they learn this early and implement it daily.

Do you have any other good ones you’d like to share? Let’s set up our kids for success!

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JessBio200 10 Things Every Special Needs Kid Must KnowJessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

10 Things Every Special Needs Kid Must Know