I opened my e-mail today and there was Proverbs 29:18 staring me in the face – “Where there is no vision, the people perish…”
That sums up my life in a nutshell over the last month and a half.
Honestly, I believe part of me was in that perishing realm because I’ve been fighting and stuggling so hard on my own. I thought I was going about things just a bit wrong and that’s why things have felt “off” – or maybe I just haven’t stuck it out long enough – or perhaps I need to just learn a bit more and it will all start to click.
All of these thoughts played over and over in my head until I started questioning everything.
Then I made a change.
Almost 2 years ago, I started on a journey of personal development. I didn’t realize that’s what it was at the time because I wasn’t really seeking it. I was more interested in developing my business skills, which of course, falls under the “personal development” umbrella. However, I wasn’t focused on intentionally bettering ME until I noticed it was ME who was benefiting the most.
I began reading every book I could that was suggested from people and mentors I trusted. I watched videos. I listened to audios. I absorbed. I soaked. I applied. And I changed.
Here’s the #1 tip I can give you today for getting to the real, deep down vision and purpose for your life…
Do the work of bettering yourself by dealing with your crap – and when I say crap, I mean the junk that’s festering in the lowest parts of your soul that needs to be unearthed, dislodged, and chucked to the wind, never to be seen again – and you need to fill that hole with new skills, new loving attitudes, new acceptance of others, new trust that God has your back, new belief that He will lead you, new faith that you were born for more, and relying on Him to show you what that is as you press for more growth, truth, and being genuine.
I have been “doing the work” on myself, like I said, for going on almost 2 years… like REALLY working on myself. Not this, “oh, I’ll just read through this book and see what sounds good.” No, I have cried as I have read, written in a journal in answer to questions posed in books, and actually written out plans of change.
I have remained open, calm, and trusting through some fairly crazy and unbelievable issues in my life because I had nothing better to do. What’s better than staying calm, not freaking out, and trusting that everything will be ok? What’s the alternative? Freaking out, doing things your own way, taking the reins of your life, and potentially making an even bigger mess. Uhh, no thank you.
When you find this sweet spot of life (and it’s not always easy), you realize that you aren’t your crazy thoughts. There is more truth about you that you have yet to step into. You realize that God can make something better from a burned down house, a marriage torn apart, a lost job, or whatever happens to be your life story. Deep down you know that all things work together for the good of those that love God and are called according to HIS purpose.
We may not have all the answers, however, it sure does put me in a state of awe when it’s in the moment that we CHOOSE to remain in the sweet spot, trusting God, and focusing on making ourselves better that we meet God in a whole new place. It’s where visions are given, passion comes to life, and the once numb, burnt out, depressed, and apathetic morsels of our lives spark again and burst into flame!
It’s where life has meaning again.
It’s where contentment and joy can be found.
It’s where peace lives.
It’s where dreams are not just made, but lived.
It’s after we have put in the work of getting through our messes that we are able to receive more – receive visions, our purpose, God’s plan for us, rekindle passions we once had or even gain new ones, etc.
I love this quote I heard recently that touched my heart in the area of vision… “Those who know the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.”
Trust without hesitation. Give without abandon. Love without reservation.
Isn’t that how God wants us to live? Trusting Him. Believing in the vision He’s placed in our hearts. And seeing it through by us showing up every day for our part to play.
If you are feeling like you are floundering, have yet to find your way, passion, or purpose, I challenge you with this – when’s the last time you looked deep, really deep, and dug out the negative, critical, judgmental, controlling, self-righteous, egotistical parts of you and let love, compassion, passion, creativity, peace, and joy fill their slots? Have you begun that journey yet? Have you found your passion and see a vision for your future? I don’t know about you, but mine EXCITES ME!! Share in the comments below. I love hearing from you!
Jessica Stone is a serial entrepreneur and mom of 4 – 3 with special needs and a set of twins. Her daughter has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her family with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!