The Lies of Personal Development

When you start this journey into self help, personal development, personal growth – whatever you want to call it – all the same, just different names, it seems most people get revelation after revelation. The more you seek, the more you are given to receive.

I know this is true for my life.

When I am open to change and seeking direction, it comes and comes like a flood.

It’s in the applying of the new knowledge and skills that gets interesting. You can be totally open to loving yourself and your life, even willing to make changes – however, the craziest part of the process of personal development is realizing just how dark, dusty, and damp your thinking was to begin with – those thoughts you grew up with, your mentality about yourself and the world around you, and how that could all once be considered “normal” in your head. Wow!

At least that’s the way I feel.

It’s brain pathways, thought patterns, and general feelings of life that try to seep back into the new thought patterns and habits you are trying to develop, almost trying to choke the life from the new growth. It’s bizarre, yet obvious, at the same time.

It’s almost it’s own worse enemy because it’s so obvious.

That’s when I know I’m on the right track… when I hit a crazy wall with funky thoughts and find myself “feeling” certain old things again and having old thoughts. It’s lies and not the truth. It’s the old me trying to squelch the new, improved me.

If you have found yourself in this same position, I encourage you to see the success you are having – if the lies are trying to creep back in, you are obviously doing something RIGHT!

Don’t give up and throw in the towel on all the progress you have made. Keep seeking answers to your purpose and passion. Keep serving others. Keep moving forward.

Are you in a place in your life right now that you are feeling “funky days” and having crazy, old thoughts creep up again? Are you fighting hard not to throw in the towel and need a boost to keep going? I pray this post has helped you realize you are NOT alone. You aren’t hanging out on a limb by yourself somewhere. You are loved. You are valued. You are appreciated and respected. Please share your story in the comments below. I love hearing from you!


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JessBio200 The Lies of Personal DevelopmentJessica Stone is a serial entrepreneur and mom of 4 – 3 with special needs and a set of twins. Her daughter has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her family with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

The Lies of Personal Development

8 thoughts on “The Lies of Personal Development

  1. I Love hearing about your journey & new revelations. I call the negative thoughts & doubts that creep back in, contrast. They contrast to the new, bright, vision that is before us. I have experienced that & search for new paths where I don’t make it hard on myself :)

    1. Definitely contrast! And definitely lacking. LOL I’m so thankful for the revelations and the journey God has me on. I know good things are coming. My job is just sticking with what God is showing me, continuing to seek Him, His direction, and what He wants of me… and then being obedient! Thanks for your comment and thoughts :)

  2. Another “on point” article. There are indeed days when I feel like throwing in the towel. But being a Leadership Trainer, I know that would not be a good “testimony”, So I remind myself to keep on, keeping on, – NO retreat, no surrender”. Holding on to that belief that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
    Thank you for the reminder.

    1. There is certainly a huge light of daylight at the end of the tunnel – we just need to remember it’s there – even on the days we can’t see it. Yetunde, even leadership trainers are human!! And you’re right, it’s about choosing to keep on keeping on. Bless you!

  3. Funky days – what a great way to say it too. Been there, done that, and sometime have to remind myself that I even left there. Progress is hard fought for sometimes, but worth it. I like the simplicity of looking for the successes you are having to bolster forward movement. That’s encouraging. I’m in that season even now – one day at a time I keep moving forward even when it feels i’ve taken two steps back. I just know and believe I am making progress.

    You dear friend, are a brave one!

    1. Thank you, Marvia. I appreciate you and your thoughts. Even though pressing through funky days for forward movement can be tough, I’m glad to know I have people like you by my side!! You are a brave one, too!

  4. I’ve been having days like you describe, Jessica, and I love how you look at it in a positive light. I like Jenny’s point, too, about using the lies as contrast to what we intend to be, do, and have. Thanks so much for shining your Light here – you have a lovely home online, very welcoming and comfy! <3

    1. Isn’t that the best way to look at it all – positively?? After living how I have, as I know you know & feel, too, positive is the only way to go!! Thanks for the compliments of being welcoming & comfy. I hope people feel that here! I’m about to do some serious tweaking to my site… hopefully for the better – I can’t wait. Even better!!! :)

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