What if Moms Threw Tantrums, Grunted, & Whined?

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What if Moms Threw Tantrums, Grunted, & Whined?

by Jessica Stone

What a world we would live in if adults could throw tantrums on the floor and roll around screaming if something didn’t go their way.  Or what about grunting and pointing to let people know what we need them to do.

Could you imagine that in a corporate office environment?

You go into your boss’s office asking what the next big project is and all you get is “mmm, mmm” as he points to the wall!

Is that helpful?  I don’t think so.

So why do we let our kids get away with it?  (and I said “we” for a reason… I’m just as guilty)

I have found recently that it’s fed this awful lack-of-communication-monster that tries to take over any time my toddler twins want something, need something, or are really upset with their world.

When they want milk, cereal, food or drink of any sort, they grunt first, slap the kitchen door, look at me, then tend to go straight to screaming.  If I ask them to speak it and “say their words,” I usually get a look of “are you CRAZY?” before the full blown screams.  HOW DARE YOU ASK ME TO SPEAK!  Why should I have to speak when YOU are the one who’s supposed to be getting up and getting me something?

We’ve even seen them hitting their own heads on the kitchen door to try to prove their point (one of them bruised his forehead yesterday hitting it so hard).

Well, boys, it’s no longer acceptable.

Children must learn how to communicate!

Could you imagine the looks on their faces if we, all of a sudden, threw ourselves on the floor, started screaming and kicking, throwing our arms around?  They would look at us in shock first, then go right back to THEIR tantrum because they would soon realize that they still haven’t yet gotten what they want.

We have had a really hard time with our twins communicating.  They are 2 1/2 years old, and they only really know about 7-10 words, on a good day.  With my daughter, when she was little (currently 10), we taught her sign language to communicate with first.  There were a few signs she picked up on, but she started talking at an average age.  My son didn’t do too much signing.  He just said “ball” and “daddy” until he was 2… then BAM, he started talking in full-blown sentences (currently 6).

Our twins are another story.  Their therapist has suggested signing or forcing them to talk because the grunts, whines, and tantrums don’t work anymore.

Do you know how hard it is to FORCE a 2 year old to talk?!?!   Talk about making a tantrum happen!

I remember one night fighting with Matthew for an hour & a half just getting him to either sign or say “please.”  Ugh!  It’s tough.

However, it is very important that they learn to communicate.

And as tough as it is, I’m thankful for the patience it has taught me.

So, while you are standing alone, watching your little one pitch a fit on the floor, remember there is another mom… somewhere in the world… probably at that same moment (and probably ME), watching their little one doing the exact same thing.

And I’m sure she’s also thinking, “if only *I* could get down on the floor & do that, too!”


Comment below with your best tantrum throwing story.  What was your child wanting… or do you even know?



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Jessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own business in the fitness industry.  She has 3 special needs children, with one child with an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility.  She enjoys sharing what she’s learned through her trials, experience, and research with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information.  Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into the clothes you’ve always wanted to wear!



What if Moms Threw Tantrums, Grunted, & Whined?

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