Purpose in the Unplanned

What happens when you realize you weren’t “planned,” “expected,” or whatever other word you want to insert there? Yet, here you are. Your father was told He was about to receive a gift. He was ready for his brand new truck. My mom gave birth to me within 20 minutes of arriving at the hospital. I came whether they “planned” it, liked it, or were prepared. It wasn’t until my dad held me in the hospital that God showed him that I was that gift.

You were conceived while on multiple forms of birth control! So, what do you do with that information?

You know you were put here, on planet Earth, for a very specific reason and purpose!!

It has taken me all through school, into the first two weeks of my sophmore year, pulling out to homeschool, starting my first job at 16 in retail… working my way up through the technical staffing industry, even to the Artz Cafe at IBM, to getting married, becoming a mother, and realizing I’m a mother to special needs kids to figure out exactly what that purpose is, and it’s even still growing and evolving.

There are plenty of people who know about nutrition. And plenty who know about fitness. There are even plenty that give information on parenting. But it’s living it that makes you qualified. It’s being in the daily grime sometimes that makes you know just the kind of days other moms have where they escape into the bathroom seeking just 2 seconds of somewhat peace and quiet. It’s knowing exactly how it feels to spend whatever it takes to get the cleanest, purest foods into your kids as possible to give their bodies the best chance at fighting whatever it is that they are fighting… and hearing about so many others spending just pennies (or so it seems) on their grocery bills while you can’t see how that’s even possible. It’s going to the gym or plugging in that DVD fitness program at home just so you can release some stress in a positive way. It’s trying every possible avenue toward health as long as it’s not compromising to any little bodies. I know what it’s all like!

I know the feelings of “will this ever end?” I know the thoughts of “this is just for a season… I hope!” I know the “what if’s” that try to creep in that you have to shove down and away from your thoughts as soon as they arrive in the front of your brain so they don’t fill your mind with negativity. And how important it is not to dwell on those thoughts that keep you guessing, questioning, and wondering because they only bring more drama with them.

No parent with special needs kids ask for them (even though, since having kids, my mom reminded me of the time when I was young and said I’d like to take care of kids that need help when I get older!). However, when you are blessed with them, you’d never turn them away. Every special needs parent that I know LOVES their kids, wouldn’t trade them for anything, and wishes more people would see them as they do. It’s a very neat reflection of God’s love for us… just as we are! We don’t give up. We don’t walk away. We do what is necessary, whether we feel like it or not.

I’m thankful for the “special needs” in my life that force me to grow, stay pure, and give me a foundation to share and speak into the lives of others that need help, hope, and health. When you realize such a need, know you were not put here by accident, and geuinely have a heart to help people, you start to see all the puzzle pieces fall into place, creating a beautiful tapestry that only God can weave together!

How have the “special needs” in your life changed you, shaped you, and forced you to grow?



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 Purpose in the Unplanned


JessBio200 Purpose in the UnplannedJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Purpose in the Unplanned

11 thoughts on “Purpose in the Unplanned

  1. Even the title of this one speaks volumes to me Jessica. Thanks for the reminder. Whether we were expecting it or not, with God there is nothing that is unplanned.

  2. Wow, Jessica, that as a child you said you wanted to take care of kids that had needs! That’s a true sign of destiny! You’re on God’s chosen path for a very special purpose! I’m glad you’re sharing your every day life with us – it’s awesome!

  3. I have a friend who has three sons with varying degrees of autism and I marvel at how she manages and at her incredible faith. She is special and so are you! The challenges you face in daily parenting are way beyond anything I can imagine. Thank you for sharing your story and you uplifting infectious faith.

    1. It is hard, however, I believe God builds into you a bit extra strength when He knows you are going to end up with special needs kids! And I hope my faith is infectious… isn’t that kind of the point?! ;)

  4. Love you, love you, love you! You are a precious gift from God! ALWAYS remember that, and we are so happy to have you and all the gang so close. Blessings for us every day!!!

  5. I have an aunt who has a special need child; two other children died in the first few months; they were the same age as I was. She always cared for me just a little bit more because I was born in the time these other two children were born. So, I also played with her child with the special need and always felt such compassion. Here I was somewhat of the same age, I could do everything and she could even talk and walk. I believe that these children have a strong inner life, maybe not the way we think it should be, but they do experience their life in their own way!!! Thank you Jessica!

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