Social Media – The Illusion of Connection

Like. Follow. Tweet. Retweet. Comment.

You know the terms. You know the lingo. Admit it – you wish there was a “love” button for some things.

We communicate in a way that is totally different than it was just a couple of years ago. It has altered our personal lives, our businesses, even the Olympic Games.

Social Media has taken over and it’s not going away anytime soon.

I am surprised when I visit some websites by all of the different options you have for sharing great articles – Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, StumbleUpon, LinkedIn, etc., etc., etc. The list goes on and on.

We feel connected. We feel like we are in the mix of everything buzzing around us. We have friends to check in with, statuses to update, and photos to post.

However, there is one fundamental flaw… we really are NOT connecting. Not on a real level. Sure, on a surface level we know what people are doing and we are able to catch up with people we haven’t seen in years (which is cool – social media brings people together all over the globe like no one else).

Think about it. Are you really talking like you used to with people? Are you spending time? Do they feel like you care and are connected?

Social Media allows us to connect to people we never would have. Even half way across the world. But what about people in your own backyard? What about those you used to be close to? Have you just dumped them into your “friends” list and occasionally say “hey” on Facebook – or even worse, assume they will just catch up with you by reading your status?

The way we communicate now via the internet, smartphones, tablets, etc., is amazing. I love the fact that we have that option. It’s awesome for business, too. You can share family updates in one post that goes to hundreds, even thousands, at the push of a button. You can share sales you are offering through your business, even notify your customers of a new product coming out. The sky is the limit to what you can do with social media that is a benefit.

One thing hasn’t changed, though. People need people. They need to feel loved, secure in friendships, connected – not just communicating.

I hope you make it a point, even if it’s through social media, to connect with loved ones and make them still feel important to you. If you can’t remember doing it on purpose, then more than likely, your friends and family already feel like you care less for them than you once did.

Don’t let another day go by without being there for someone, asking them how they are and genuinely meaning it, and showing that you deeply care about them. Life is too short to get hung up in who is “sitting on the patio” or “just broke a nail.” It is also taking time away from our families that we will never get back. Make sure you spend your online time wisely.

In the words of John C. Maxwell, “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect” (one of his more recent books that I HIGHLY recommend).


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JessBio200 Social Media   The Illusion of ConnectionJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple, to help you feed your kids quick & healthy! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Social Media – The Illusion of Connection

11 thoughts on “Social Media – The Illusion of Connection

  1. Your article reminds me of the 13th chapter of 1st Corinthians… about how the only thing that really counts is LOVE. Whatever we do, if it’s not love-based and love-filled, it counts as nothing… no value, no importance… garbage.

    Sometimes I just have to take time to slow down or I will melt down. I love your wisdom in this article, Jessica… about taking time for REAL heart connections. I love the “touches” in Social Media but we all need to remind ourselves to keep our antennae up for opportunities to make real, loving connections every day.

    Great article!

  2. I couldn’t agree more…in fact I just had this conversation with a group of teens…not only are they missing out on face to face relationship skills, they are losing proper grammar skills, spelling skills etc. There are definite advantages but we as parents must be sure they are not coming with a price our kids will be paying later on in life! Thanks for sharing this!

    1. Exactly, Denny. And even those in their 20′s and early 30′s are starting to rely more and more on social media than keeping their relationships in person in tact. It’s sad. As parents, we definitely need to be looking out for our kids and their relationships, too, especially since they are growing up in a culture totally filled with social media and they have never known anything different. Thanks for your thoughts, as always!

  3. Wonderful point you make here Jessica and one that I fear many of our younger generation in particular are missing – the importance of being able to communicate and connect in real life. It’s up to us as parents to help model having a good balance of online and offline relationships.

  4. You’re absolutely right. Social media and technology has changed the way we communicate, even in the real world. There used to be a time when, if you found yourself sitting in a waiting room with 4 other people you’d all be having a conversation. Now everybody comes in, sits down and pulls out their phone.

  5. Penny LeClair says:

    I love love social media, I have “connected” with so many people I wouldn’t have the privileged to know otherwise I have made a few friends that we are actually planning on meet “outside” social media! ;-) its so much fun and does make it a lot easier!

    1. That is wonderful, Penny! I’m so glad. It is definitely great to connect with old friends and make new ones. And how fun to meet up with people you’ve met online “outside” screen walls!!

  6. This is so true on so many levels Jessica; people are hungry to make connections everywhere, but the question is is if we are really connected. I believe though that it makes our life a whole lot easier and more fun!

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