A Message From a Mess – Life Through Divorce

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This message is too strong to keep for yourself. Someone, someone you know, is hurting because of rejection, abuse, neglect, or just through the tearing apart of something they once valued, loved, and respected. Divorce can be brutal. Feeling there is no one there, no one understands, or no one cares can be heart-wrenching. They need to know there is hope. They need encouragement. Maybe we, together, can be that encouragement to them today by you simply spreading this story. I don’t mind – that’s why I recorded it. Please, please share it!

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JessBio200 A Message From a Mess   Life Through DivorceJessica Stone is a mom of 4 and owner of her own businesses in the fitness, beauty, and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple. Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

A Message From a Mess – Life Through Divorce

Standing Still is Moving Backwards

Do you ever have those days you wake up roaring like a lion?

I’m having one of those days. I’m ready to put my hand to the plow, get some stuff knocked off my to-do list, and actually get closer to my goals.

We waste so much time. We find ourselves surfing the internet, totally sucked into reading other people’s statuses on Facebook, and before you know it, half of your day is gone! If I let myself, I get sucked into it, too.

It’s a trap. It’s a time sucker. It’s a time stealer. You never get that time back. And instead of working hard, focused on your to-do list and reaching your goals, another day is gone and you aren’t one step closer than you were.

Have you had days like these?

Or what about this… you know you need to exercise, but you keep saying, “tomorrow.” Tomorrow never comes because it’s always today! That’s why we need to live in the present. We can’t live only in the future, making future plans. And we can’t live wallowing in the past or even in the “what could have been’s” ~ we need to be more present than either the past or future.

If you aren’t present, you won’t make steps towards achieving your goals ~ whether they be to lose weight, get a promotion, exercise regularly, find a job, play more with your kids, eat better, connect with loved ones, etc. There are always excuses… always reasons not to. All you need is one good reason TO do something, and that will be enough to propel you forward… if you let it.

Sometimes, we need to get out of our own way because we are stopping our progress forward. We need to allow thoughts outside the box, too. Those are usually the ones that lead to greatness!

Who wants to keep going through the “daily grind” ~ who likes that term anyway?? Life is more than what most people make it. And unfortunately, most reading this won’t do anything to change their habits and their lives. You, on the other hand, WANT to change your life. You want to move forward. You want to progress. You want to reach your full potential – as a parent, as a spouse, in business, with finances, etc. You are willing to step outside your comfort zone and realize there is a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, and even blessing that comes with that.

So… get over yourself. Take a leap of faith. Do that thing that you know you should, but you’ve let some form of fear stop you! Fear is an outside force that will jump on you if you let it. But ONLY if you let it.

Are you ready to pick up your fearful baggage, toss it to the wind, and move forward? I am.

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JessBio200 Standing Still is Moving BackwardsJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple, to help you feed your kids quick & healthy! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Standing Still is Moving Backwards

Marriage Isn’t What You Think It’s For

I am reading the book Sacred Marriage right now, and I have to say, I think I agree with the author’s general concept: marriage wasn’t created to make us happy but to make us holy.

God isn’t looking for a happy people. He’s looking for a people who trust Him. A people who realize that apart from Him, they are nothing. A people that put others above themselves. A people that run to Him first. A people that are teachable and allow character to be built in them. A people that find contentment in everything that is thrown at them.

Marriage is a perfect place to learn to find contentment, while your character is being built and while you focus on God first to pull you through, especially when your spouse isn’t the one to do it.

Far too often are we told and believe that marriage is lovely, wonderful, and rosy. We grow up with fairy tales. However, the last time I looked, I wasn’t a princess living in a castle. I have learned that I’m God’s princess and that He longs to give me the desires of my heart.

But what kind of father would He be if He always let us have our way, never let anything negatively affect us, and always stepped in before anything bad ever happens? What kind of parent would that make you to your kids? Your kids would never learn how to walk on their own two feet, strong, steady, and secure. They would crumble as adults whenever they would have to look for new work, got their heart broken, or had to face uncertainty. What do you think would happen to you if every time something bad was headed your way, God stepped in to shelter you from it?

If we allow it, God can use our own mistakes, our disagreements with our spouse, and the negative things we are surrounded with for our good (Romans 8:28). If we choose to have character built in us, He is trustworthy to do it. Having character means growing in trust and truth, growing in our understanding of others, growing in our integrity and honesty, growing in our love and not judgments of others. Marriage is a perfect place for us to learn those things… again… if we let it.

Of course, marriage offers plenty of opportunities to get your feelings hurt, to react like a child and slam doors, stomp your feet, or throw a temper tantrum. And as the author of Sacred Marriage notes, you also had those same reactions to your parents and siblings growing up, too. It happens with people you live with, because you are so close to them. However, back then, you were a child and didn’t know there was a better way to respond. Hopefully, it has or you will let it be groomed into you to respond differently as an adult. As adults, we are given the chance to make things right as many times, if not more, as we were given as children. However, this time, we can let it mold us, change us, and become better grown ups for it.

Your kids are watching you. What are they learning? Are you teaching them how to behave like a child in marriage or how to behave as you wish they would when they get older? Are you focused so much on the hurts and wrongs done to you that you aren’t willing to grow?

All of us who are married have problems. If someone tells you they don’t, they are in denial. We all have some time that our feelings are hurt, or something didn’t go as planned, or you were met with rejection… or in some cases, even worse. One thing I have learned is that it doesn’t matter what you go through, God can use all sorts of circumstances to teach the exact same lessons to different people. A teachable person may “get it” a lot faster than a stubborn one, though. Personally, I prefer to remain teachable. It’s easier to find a place to be content when you allow yourself to grow and mature faster.

I hope you will start looking at your marriage as a place to grow personally and a place to teach your kids. They are watching your every move. Find contentment. Find peace. Find yourself… the one God loves and adores.

As Dr. Jack Atnip says, “it is better to have peace than to be right.”

How can you change to put others first, find contentment in your current situation, and learn to love without judgment?

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JessBio200 Marriage Isnt What You Think Its ForJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE gift to you, 30 Easy Snacks Your Kids Will Devour: Eating Healthy Never Got So Simple, to help you feed your kids quick & healthy! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

Marriage Isn’t What You Think It’s For

Relationships are the Key to Life

Life is about relationships. It’s about connections to those around you. Connections to people you grew up with, share the same blood with, school friends, and even those you just met 5 minutes ago. Our connections to people on this planet are truly what’s most important in life.

Think about it.

When a celebratory event happens in life, what is it about? What about a tragedy? They are all about people when you get down to the heart of the issue. Graduations, marriages, births, adoptions, promotions, and on the flip side, divorces, orphans, firings, even homes burning down. The most rewarding and the most sad events have to do with people… and everything in between.

Connections to people are also what bring us the best doctors for our kids. Or perhaps even the best therapists that understand our needs. It’s connections that find us a new place to live, a better school, or the best tutor in town.

Yet it’s people that we tear down all the time. It’s people we make fun of and ridicule. It’s people we gossip about and talk badly about behind their backs. It’s the very people that we are called to love that we criticize the most.

We don’t understand why they aren’t like us. We don’t “get” them. The saddest thing to me is that most of us brush it off as “their” fault and “they” are the ones with problems. How is that love? How is that acceptance?

As the mom to 3 special needs kids, I have learned a lot about people, a lot about children, and a lot about prejudices, judgments, and assumptions. I have learned that people don’t know much about the special needs world, don’t want to know, and blow kids off as being “weird,” “dumb,” “stupid,” or “slow.” They pass them off as being “too unfocused” or “too hyper” without getting to know the child and what makes them unique, motivated, and special. They try to slap labels on them to classify them as a certain way.

There is only one problem…

Each person is uniquely different ~ uniquely made by a Creator who placed every hair on your head. Everyone has their own personality, their own circumstances, their own experiences, and their own character that makes them unique. There is not one child or one adult who is alike on planet earth. We are all a work in progress.

We like to think we are perfect. We like to think we are the best. We like to think we are the most popular or we help out the most.

Reality: we are ALL works in progress.

The faster we realize that, the faster we accept people for who they are, offer them grace to be themselves, and appreciate the gifts they have that can touch OUR lives.

Open your heart. Open your mind. You just might find greater love sneaking in when you aren’t looking!

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JessBio200 Relationships are the Key to LifeJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

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To Choose to Love or Not to Love… It is a Choice

We grow up with fairy tales making us think that some day, a prince or princess will come along that we were destined to meet, fall madly in love with, and live with happily ever after. However, that’s not the way love works. Not real, true love. Love is a choice before it is anything else.

Yes, you may meet a nice, handsome guy, fall head over heels in love with him. However, what happens when he doesn’t understand your feelings, doesn’t help around the house, wastes toothpaste, or even totally forgets your birthday? Do you say, “Forget it! This isn’t worth it!” Do you look for another guy that does understand your feelings, that uses the toothpaste exactly like you do, or that remembers every birthday, anniversary, and even the day you met? Chances are, you’ll find something wrong with that guy, too, because that’s what we tend to do.

We can find faults in any relationship if we are looking hard enough. We can dwell on how different a person is from us. We can see their faults plain as day. We can certainly point fingers. It’s easy to do. That part in life is easy. Let’s just blame others for what they don’t do that’s fun, organized, correct, easy, etc. Isn’t that the way this works? If one friendship doesn’t work out, you just trade that person in for a new one?

Unfortunately, we’ve been sold that bill of goods. And it’s running rampant among our society.

What about special needs kids? Let’s say you find out about their needs before they are born. Do you just choose to trade them in even though that child was your choice and your responsibility… and maybe you were supposed to have them and keep them?

What about the child that doesn’t develop needs until later in life, like our kids? What about the child diagnosed with ADHD who needs medicine every morning and help focusing on school work every night? What about the child who can’t walk, dress themselves, eat by themselves, or go to the bathroom by themselves? What about the child with autism that says mean things and throws temper tantrums? Do you just say, “No, this is too hard. Forget love. Forget helping. They are on their own… it’s just too much for me.” No, you stick it out. You realize they were put in your life for a reason. You may be their best supporter on the planet that they would never get anywhere else. You may be the very person that is used to help them reach their potential.

It’s the same thing in marriage, in friendships, in families.

Love is a choice. It’s not a vacation. A holiday. A take-it-only-when-I-feel-the-fuzzy-feelings kind of thing. Love is a choice.

I often hear that phrase “You can’t help who you fall in love with.” However, I know first hand that you can choose love. You can choose to stay strong through your weak feelings. You can choose to work through things instead of throwing relationships out in the trash just because something doesn’t suit you. Could you imagine if all the parents of special needs kids did that? Well, why are children any different than spouses? Why are children any different than that best friend you had in school that you lost over some shirt she borrowed or some girl that he dated after you that neither one of you married?

Isn’t it time we stop judging people and condemning them for things that they do or don’t do? You have no idea what’s in their hearts. And isn’t it time we step out beyond ourselves and realize we aren’t here for us but for others? You can only choose to keep loving, keep supporting, and keep being the best mom, wife, husband, friend, daughter, or son you can be.

Love is a choice.

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Love is the most important choice we can make! However, so few know it. Partner with me to share how important choosing love is… for all spouses, children, friends, etc. Use the sharing buttons below!

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JessBio200 To Choose to Love or Not to Love... It is a ChoiceJessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own business in the fitness industry. She has 3 special needs children, with one child with an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, and research with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!

To Choose to Love or Not to Love… It is a Choice