Children these days seem to be less and less appreciative. Have you noticed or is it just me? Next time you are out shopping, take a look around. Listen to what kids are saying to their parents, to their friends, even to strangers.
What has happened?
As I was growing up, boy, you bet I said “thank you” and “may I please have” and all the other similar words that my parents expected out of me. I think that’s the kind of generation in which we grew up.
But what happened? What happened to our kids that made them so angry, so disrespectful, and so assuming that things are OWED to them?
Unfortunately, parents, it falls on us.
We have done a poor job of instilling in them the two things that will take them further in life than anything else:
~ Loving People – ALL People
~ Being Polite
And guess what? Neither one has to be hard.
Recently in my house, we have had a breakthrough with our 2 year olds finally starting sign language. They are so happy when they do it now, they even reach out for a high-five afterward. It dawned on me the other day that whether they understand it yet or not, we NEED to have them sign “thank you” after they receive something.
They are never too young to learn.
And just think, if we start now when they are two, how do you suppose they will grow up? Like a stuck up brat or like the thankful and respectful child that they are called to be?
Frankly, I want the latter for my kids.
And let’s talk about this “loving people” thing. Why are people, generally, so judgmental these days? I mean really, do we need all that publicity about Angelina Jolie’s right leg from the dress she wore at the Oscars? Or the fact that, oh my goodness, Madonna could be marrying someone again and she is eight years older than his mother?
Let me ask you this… so what? What does that have to do with you? Why do we care so much to point out others’ flaws?
Now here’s the hardest question: what does pointing out their flaws do for YOU and do for THEM?!
God designed us to love all people. That’s the second greatest command, actually. Did you know that? And loving all people includes the grumpy man in line ahead of you at the grocery store, the teacher who is vague and rude, the mailman that left your package out in the rain, the other soccer mom that practically cussed out your kid for blocking her kid’s goal shot, and even the person who talks behind your back about a simple mistake you made that they can’t forget.
It can be difficult. There is no doubt about that. However, if we are looking to extend people grace, then loving them doesn’t have to be hard.
What are you teaching your kids when you fly off the mouth at someone, complain about what they did, and disrespect them by sharing their mistakes with others?
And which type of adult do you think their boss and co-workers will want to work with one day? Do you think a potential wife or husband is going to want a selfish, bitter, and resentful spouse?
As parents, aren’t we supposed to make this a better world by what we instill in our kids as the next generation of leaders?
I want to be proud at the end of my days for raising loving, respectful, polite, obedient, and trustworthy kids. How about you?
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Jessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!