My grandfather’s death is imminent. His left kidney is shut down completely, he only has 25% use of his right kidney, and he has a cancerous mass growing in his abdomen. We lost my grandmother, his wife, last May.
I miss her greatly.
Because of modern technology, I was able to record a brief video of me with my kids, which I sent from a smartphone to my mom’s smartphone. Multiple states away, there in his hospital room, he could see our message. (technology is so cool!)
Over the past several days, it has made me evaluate and think… what if you knew someone close to you were leaving this planet? You’d have just days. And not knowing how many days left, what would you say?
Then I got to thinking specifically about the closest person to me… my spouse.
What would I say to him? What would be most important that I would want him to always remember, forever?
What about you? What would you say?
Incredibly fast, all those nit picky things that typically borther us wouldn’t seem all that significatn anymore. The toothpaste cap wouldn’t matter. The way the toilet paper spins off the roll wouldn’t mean much. The “mind reading” that he never did because you didn’t speak up and TELL him your thoughts wouldn’t even cross your mind.
I’d say something like…
“I love you. Always have. You have forever changed my life for the better. Whether I always realized it or not, I do now.”
“I’m so very sorry, from the bottom of my heart, for hurting you, not standing up for you, being critical of you, and not loving you the way I should have at all times.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t try to understand you better.”
“I’m sorry for not appreciating our differences more often and working on better communication earlier in our marriage.”
“I appreciate all the times you went out of your way to heal me… in big and little things… that I never gave you credit or gratitude for.”
“I appreciate you, exactly the way God made you.”
“I’m glad God brought us together to live this beautiful life. We may not understand it all the time, but there is no other person on the planet that God would rather have me go through it with than you>”
“You mean SO very much to me.”
“I’m thankful for every second that we have had together.”
“Thank you for backing me and supporting me with all the crazy, brilliant, and fun ideas I have. You have always been my #1 supporter.”
“I’m sorry if I didn’t keep your love tank full. I know I haven’t. I know I have been selfish.”
“I know this life has a way of creeping between two people. I’m glad we survived that and stayed together through the muck, trenches, storms, rain, sunrises, and sunny days ~ you have my heart forever!”
What would you say?
Life is short. We don’t know how much time we or our loved ones get on this planet.
Have you said all you need to say?
Make the most of it… today.
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Jessica Stone is a wife, mom to 4, and owner of her own businesses in the fitness and essential oils industries. She has 3 special needs children, one which has an undiagnosed neuro-muscular condition that limits her mobility, and her twins are currently receiving therapy for sensory defensiveness, physical mobility, fine motor skills, and speech. She enjoys sharing what she has learned through her trials, experience, research, and tools that have helped her children’s health with other parents who are looking for support, encouragement, and helpful information. Get her FREE eBooklet Five Steps to Losing Those Last 10 Pounds today for simple steps to help you trim up and fit into those fashionable clothes you’ve always wanted to wear! Connect with Jess live today on Facebook!